TWO IDEAS FOR SUPPLEMENTAL INCOME AND FLEXIBILITY FOR PERSONS WITH A LEARNING DISORDER

I’d like to begin while living with the frustrations of a learning disorder, I have learned the new Uber Driver app, I have had more training, I have had more practice, I am more comfortable and I have a better understanding of the Uber routine. I love driving for UBER. Despite the frustrations (from Auditory Processing Disorder) that I vented in my last post RECENT REALITY OF LIVING WITH AUDITORY PROCESSING DISORDER I’d like to revisit my experiences.

One of the needs I have and have missed from working in my medical sales job is meeting and finding a connection with people, both with Uber riders and drivers. Driving for Uber has met this need, even if the time spent with newly acquainted riders is average 20- 30 minutes but even longer lengths of wait time but valuable time to ask questions to seasoned drivers.

Everything is difficult with a learning disorder: a post about hope, living and working with a learning disorder. Yes, the learning curve was difficult for me, but I embraced it and have overcome it. Now I love it. I will share a few experiences and stories with you in the following post.

 First of all, when I initially came home as a new Uber driver, I had stories to tell my daughter and husband of riders. After a few weeks, my husband asked: “do you interview anyone”? Later, my daughter asked: “do you give them all your resume”? Yes, to both. If they want to talk or ask me questions I try to find a commonality. Usually, they ask why I drive? Initially, it was to earn money to go on a trip to Ireland with my sisters. Since my husband wasn’t invited, I felt I didn’t need to take the money out of the family budget and earn my way.

The question I most often get asked is “do you like driving for Uber?” So, I give them my answer, yes, I like meeting people something I have missed since I retired, supplementing my retirement, and I am doing it to earn my way on a trip to Ireland with my sisters. This intrigues most of them both in Ireland and that I am earning my own money doing a job that I don’t feel is beneath me. I sell them on me, my passion for meeting them, on my reason for driving (earning money) and it makes good conversation.

Another question is “what brought you to driving?” Thus, I give them my resume, I was pushed into early retirement from medical sales and am supplementing my income to travel. I miss meeting people and this job meets that need even if the encounter is only 15-30 minutes. I have learned many drivers are retired, some have enough retirement income but need a purpose and do it to get out every day.

If they don’t ask me questions or just don’t want to talk, many are making a business call or texting while I drive that is fine, but I miss the opportunity of an encounter. However, if there is just silence, I start “the interview” as my husband called it. I learned from being a sales rep to ask them probing question or leading questions like: “what brought you to [my city]?, “how long have you lived in [city or their destination]?”, “I was heading home, to the mountain when I got your ping, are you familiar with the area?” Sometimes I know something about the rider’s destination and can give them some interesting (maybe useless) information about it or about the city. It usually helps to connect, which leads to interesting conversations and that leads to tips.

Finally, my experience to share is that I love to write about this passion of living with a learning disorder, Wealthy Affiliate is a good platform to learn how to supplement income by writing, to learn to use it step by step, and being an Uber Driver are the two ideas of supplementing your income and both can be done on your time frame and you are your own boss.

Please leave comments or questions below, I would love to hear your struggles and stories.

Have the best day.

Laura Lee

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Quiet Time, What It Means To One With APD?

Does annoying background noise keep you from having a meaningful conversation with family and friends because of APD?

As I sit here at my home computer, the house is quiet, without noise except for the keys clicking on the keyboard. For one wrestling with Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) easily distracted and background noise makes it hard to concentrate, focus and process. This quietness is perfect.

This entire scenario is not typical, but I do love the quiet, it seems the words and my thoughts flow flawlessly on paper but not in a conversation.

However, the quiet will soon be interrupted, with background noises; TV (high volume does not help), noise from the washer and dryer, conversations (again, speaking LOUDER is not better), phone rings, text dings, music coming from a different room, and noticeable it is all noisy.

The distractions remind me of the moment I had when my Psych explained what I was struggling with was real learning disorders, APD, and ADD, but that is only a label. I learned about it so I could educate my “circle” how they could help me. Noise can cause irritability and anxiety, which can damage relationships and interfere with your sex life. Of course, something is always to blame for interfering with your sex life besides the ex. Oh my, let’s don’t go there!

Let’s get back to my true story. This post is not really about the quiet, but the annoyance of not being able to apprehend the sounds to recognize words in sentences. It is overwhelming and always aggravating to be struggling to determine words, language, or ideas; just, conversation. If I am face to face with you, I can focus and process well if there is no background noise. If not intentionally face to face with you, I only process the last part of a sentence, the first of a sentence is like a mumble.

I’ve accused my husband of mumbling way too many times, and I am sorry for that. Remarks might come through with certain words drowned out by other noises. I then try to determine the message one is trying to communicate  with what I hear of the message.

I wish I could have JUST ONE DAY without asking any one to repeat what they said. Huh? What? Pardon? Or replying with something that shows I entirely misunderstood the message. It is so much like having hearing loss, but I can hear, I’m deaf to certain sounds. Crazy, yeah? There is not a darn thing I can do about it. There are no devices available for this; a hearing aid doesn’t stimulate processing; it just makes it louder.

Have you ever been in a bar or restaurant so noisy that you made yourself hoarse trying to talk loudly enough to be heard? Maybe you gave up on having a meaningful conversation altogether? Maybe you even ended up drinking more than you intended to because it was too noisy to converse. All of these are side effects of noise, and noise is a side effect of annoyance.

Well, noisy people and places annoy me. I find when several conversations are occurring at once, I can’t process any of them, who freakin’ cares besides me?

We all have struggles, and yep I have a learning disorder (or two), anxiety, got pushed out of a job after 25 years, whined to my Psych, and after sulking for five years, I’m moving on. But I get it, won’t forget it, and want to share it.

Sharing with others is essential; everyone has something going on; it’s called “life experiences”.  I have life experiences; I hid them all for a long time, now I want to share them all. My job was my identity, I was emotionally attached to it, and I lost it. I am not the Big Pharma sales representative any longer, but I am a person who worked for a Big Pharma company for 25 years and learned a lot of transferrable skills.

I have accepted that I hear and learn differently, I am living with it, but instead of “that” being me, I am me with “that” as frustrating as that is. A funny part of my story is as I explain I have learning disorders and what they are, it seems that to most I talk to recognize it, and they also have it! Hum. So maybe I’m not so freakin’ different?

The easiest, quickest way to communicate is merely to say something (for me I add a shock factor) and then the other person replies, right? Right, unless the listener has APD, then the remarks come through with certain words drowned out by other noises. Most people aren’t familiar with APD and are much more likely to wonder if I am just not listening, not very intelligent or don’t freaking care about the conversation (usually the latter). I am missing out on so much.

It seems I get essential messages wrong, forgetful, and have problems following instructions, sequencing, losing parts of directions, instructions or recipes, and lengthy explanations. Do I hear an “Amen”?

What do you tell your employer to keep this from becoming another one of those jobs where you quit or if you are lucky enough to retire before they can fire you? Disclose it or not, now or later? It happened to me; performance evaluations pointing out inadequate performances (by their new standards and the introduction of computers), pushed me to disclose my learning disorders, with accommodations (for a medical sales representative) provided to my employer.

TAKING NOTES

My accommodations require I take time to make notes and to write essential information down, have reminders put in a memo or email, create a specific adjustment to my schedule was created. I use index cards to trigger the points I present and quiet places for preparations. None of this went over well, but Big Pharma played along shortly.

Sometimes I need quiet time, an absence of background noise and distractions? If the employer will comply with reasonable accommodations, it sounds good on paper but it is not practical in the real world. The noise is present, and my focus is not.

I find it is common in the pharmaceutical industry for older employees (what? I was 52) get pushed out for younger, less expensive employees. I guess being a seasoned representative with 25 years of experience and relationships which takes years to develop didn’t freakin’ matter in the end.

IN CONCLUSION, THE  Bottom Line: Stress, Anxiety, and fear!

A smarter person than I said, “I hadn’t noticed that I had a hearing problem. I just thought most people had given up on speaking clearly.” Touché

Do you fear to explain the gap in your work history? Sign up for a class, start a blog, start your own business (potentially an online marketing business). It’s all so clear to me now. Working from home, on your computer, on your schedule and collectively learn how to make money working with Affiliate Programs, there are thousands of them and millions of products. 

So, you also find yourself in a wave of anxiety and embarrassment denying your family because you are unemployed, fired, retired, disabled, can’t make ends meet, or just want to supplement your income. I know, me too! However, I learned making money does not have to be brick and mortar, working for someone else, dealing with bosses, or dealing with long travel times. Just the opposite!

I found out how to supplement my retirement; writing which I enjoy, and helping others that have felt the emotions I felt while jobless before I found Wealthy Affiliate.

Please leave a comment on your personal experiences, helpful tips, and resources or other topics you would like to read.

Peace,

Laura Lee

 

Things Adults with Auditory Processing Disorder Do Differently

Welcome! You have landed on my website ALL EARS posting my first time about “Things Adults with Auditory Processing Disorder Do Differently.” I love to laugh and will address this sensitive subject with humor. Big Pharma pushed me into early retirement for being different. In defense of NOT being ordinary, the “shove out” was a gift! I never thought I would write those words.

ALL EARS is a site to share encounters of living, working, and struggling with Adult Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), learning disabilities, and anything else that labels you.

I will share with you personalized content, insights, experiences, stories as well as resources, hopefully with a hint of humor. I do hope you find this website useful, a pathway for all who share and survive the misunderstandings of adult learning disorders and doing things differently. It’s great NOT to be ordinary!

My Story

For 25 years, I worked as a medical sales representative for a Fortune 100 Pharmaceutical Company, my dream job, and it was also my identity. The first 20 years, I loved the job, and I had fun doing it. The last five years of that job was anguish and torment. I lost time with my family and my sense of humor (which was the real tragedy) to intense stress while trying to meet the company’s unobtainable expectations.

Yes, I resented the treatment by the managers, and I reached the goals but worked my butt off doing it. I realized when BIG Pharma upgraded technology to laptops and tablets; I didn’t transition well. I could not do things quick enough on the tablet; somewhat right, but still difficult to accept and vexing. This job was financial stability for my family. I lost my sense of humor, lost my job, and lost my youth. What happened to me?

Who says you need to make money doing what you love? Mom and Dad said it because they didn’t like their jobs. Honestly, since when does everyone feel entitled to enjoy every day of their career? Really, what is so wrong with working a regular job you like with people you want to be around, and then pursuing your passion on the side? My passion is writing, and I use this opportunity also to supplement my retirement. Works for me!

In the spirit of celebrating the holidays, I write the dreaded but funny annual newsletter, making fun of myself and anyone related to me, but why only once a year when I can do it weekly? Learning to build a website is what I have been waiting to find, and it is legit, the home of affiliate marketing!

Back To My Story

Let’s get back to my story. Depression and anxiety are what happened. The source of the depression and anxiety started with the love child family secret. My parent didn’t marry until after I was born, but I didn’t know it for 40 years, and back then it was to be kept a secret. I grew up in a small town and did not know, W-T-F? Being the first oops, and the reason for the three siblings that came behind me, very close behind me. Boom, boom, and then oops boom again. I’m okay with it now. However, the depression and anxiety moved to be work-related, I landed in a Psych’s office.

In time, the Psych recognized then tested me for Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), inattentive, and easily distracted. The diagnosis explained my repeated errors, lack of concentration at work. I was prescribed medications for depression, anxiety, and ADD. They helped for a while.

The Psych shared with me he had two sons, one with ADD and one who wished he had it! The son with ADD was more creative about learning. I recall when I studied, I wrote and rewrote my notes until I could see the information in my head — something else I do differently, learn.

After several years of continued substandard performance evaluations, intense stress and sleep deprivation, I asked my Psych if ADD could be the reason for the downfall in performance (or was I just a goof-off)? I was desperate. He knew I was frustrated, and it negatively affected my job performance. He suggested tests for assessment Results were I had another learning disorder.

When I learned of this newly diagnosed and uncommon Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), I was surprised but relieved. The Psych and I together worked out the accommodations as it pertained to my position, and I turned it over to the bosses. Note taking is essential, but I had learned early to take notes. Without writing notes, I don’t “process,”  and it didn’t happen.

What Is living with APD Like?

For many people, living with APD is like trying to hear on a cell phone with the signal cutting in and out, but it doesn’t help to change cell service. The wiring in my brain is another “different” for me. There is “no tiny speaker” inside my head to relay messages from the outside. There is no medication for APD either. I’ve researched CBD oil hemp oil and found CBD oils are helpful for many diagnoses; learning disorders, anxiety, pain, arthritis, and many other ailments you can think. I think it is the best thing since aspirin.  I will write a review in a later post.

Diagnosed in tandem with ADD is usually another learning disorder. For me it is APD and is a disorder affecting the ability to understand speech (things sound garbled) and may exhibit as poor listening skills, difficulty processing, carrying out simple instructions and interpreting information presented verbally or with rapid speech, or maybe I don’t give a crap.

This miscommunication causes trouble with coworkers, partners, family, and friends (so, it wasn’t a total loss). I regularly deal with no clarity in what I hear and struggle to understand the mumble. I usually walk away and shrug my shoulders because most of it I never get.  The ears hear the brain listens. Heck yeah, turn it up!

Treatment? Cure?

Treatments can help, but there is no cure. It is helpful to establish eye contact, allow time for sorting information, eliminate distracting noises, have your partner touch you on the arm, shoulder, or wherever to get your attention before speaking. This allows time to shift focus to the conversation, and take notes or write down trigger words. For some topics, email works best. Short term memory is below ordinary and very frustrating, which also comes with age, sadly.

My Psych placed me on six months medical leave diagnosed with severe depression (recurrent) and anxiety, both interfered with the pace of the job, with no improvement while exposed to the speed and the demands of my work settings. Fear is an unpleasant emotion and can be debilitating; it sucks! I grudgingly retired, but Daddy said, “save up,” I did, and we carry on.

Why Am I Doing This?

I want to help you navigate through the living, working, struggling, and adjusting as I learned to do years ago with hours of research, but I know now life is OK on the retired side of Big Pharma. It was a relief to understand why things were such a struggle for me. I have a master’s degree and know I am not dumb, (or at least the diploma suggest it). I love to write, and I find it therapeutic to put my thoughts, emotions, and humor into a website. Ironically, one of the jobs recommended for people with APD is to be a writer; I guess it was meant to be. I hope my passion will be helpful to you.

What’s Next?

Why does it take a “perceived” tragedy to reel you back spiritually? I don’t know God’s will, but He got my attention.

My thoughts on topics for future posts include job severance or buyout, bully bosses (that will be a fun topic), surviving hostile workplace, discrimination, SS Disability, work from home to supplement your income or unemployment, CBD oil and hemp oil, recording devices, and spirituality, all with a hint of my humor.

If you need income (which most of us do), are unemployed, were fired, want to supplement your retirement, or looking for untapped opportunities working from home with an online business, perhaps your disability keeps you from the traditional 8-5 job, I have an option that is working for me.

I mentioned I have registered with an online program to learn how to build websites, how to generate an income with online marketing, to get absolute clarity in every aspect of the online industry.  I provided links to the program on the sidebar, Wealthy Affiliate. You can’t have it all, but you can have a piece. Did I mention they offer a  free trial with no credit card requirement?

If you want to continue after the free trial, it is very reasonably priced for all the support and education they offer.  I have tried many online biz opportunities, but this is the real thing. my cost is now $29.00 monthly because I took the year option instead of monthly.

Do you have suggestions on topics you would like to read? Help me out here if you have thoughts, please leave a comment.

Blessings to all of you visiting this site and check back in soon.

Laura Lee