At 45, I was finally diagnosed with two learning disorders: Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) coexisting with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), concentration, distraction, and focus, also anxiety and depression but not hyperactivity. You mean, I am not slow, lazy or a rebel? Please go to ALL EARS to find posts on different subjects I’ve written. This article I overview quirks and attribute I connect to living with a learning disorder:

Persistence. An attribute to ADD is persistence (hyper-focus). When there is something I really do want to get done, I will stay at it for hours (ignoring all other appointments or the time of morning), days, weeks, and even months. When something come my way and I want it, I don’t let go. So, starting and finishing tasks is a challenge.

Procrastination. I will wait until the absolute last minute to do something, and then run around trying to complete it. School research papers were the worst, with preparing for test were always a last-minute panic. Emotional, being easily flustered and stressed out, irritable or short, often explosive, temper. I would get mad at the smallest things. Emotions are a part of learning disorders and I am very emotional.

Disorganization. My house and my car are so messy, cleaning is a distraction nightmare. have a poor audio memory, short term memory problems and I am always misplacing my keys, phone, lists and always in search of something before I can leave the house or come back into the house to attain an item, and trying to find things I have put away but can not remember where. Too often, I have brought Christmas gifts out weeks after the holiday because I forgot I had them or I could not find them. I wish I could have just one day when I can find my phone, keys, glasses, purse, not walk around the house trying to remember what item I am looking for. Really, just one day!

Forgetfulness and poor working memory. Also a huge problem because I try to remind myself to do important stuff and next thing, I am trying to remember what I wanted to remember, huh? Make lists! I can toggle on the internet from one page to another and forget in that milli-second what the word or thought I had searched. To make it worse, I would get distracted on the computer and end up with 20 or 30 apps or pages opened and can not remember what my intentions were to begin with.

Easily distracted. I have trouble prioritizing, starting and finishing tasks a I mentioned above. I am easily distracted in conversation and concentration, particularly if there are any noises or distractions in the background. I seriously hear “blah, blah, blah” until I focus back into the conversation or any other activity I was doing that requires concentration or focus. Huh is common and a constant in conversation between me and anyone else. Too often, I may never understand what was said or asked to me that I can process and how to answer. ADD coexist with another learning disorder and in my case it is Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) and is when the ears hears but the brain misinterprets what it hears.

TimManagement. Too many unfinished projects and too many setbacks from this past year?            *Do Less.                              *Know Less. You don’t       have to now everything     about everything.            *Care Less about what others want me to do.                                                             *Forget Less. Write down what to do, put reminders on your calendar, timer, or alarm clock as reminders of how much time you have committed to a task.                                                                                                                            *Regret Less.

Embrace the chaos! Chaos is a friend of mine. I accept chaos, I’m not sure it accepts me. Remember, out of chaos God made a world.

Learning Disorders does not have to hold you back. Once you know you have ADD or APD, work it. Blame the ADD/APD not yourself.


Laura Lee







I’d like to begin
while living with the frustrations of a learning disorder, I have learned the new Uber Driver app, I have had more training, I have had more practice, I am more comfortable and I have a better understanding of the Uber routine. I love driving for UBER. Despite the frustrations (from Auditory Processing Disorder) that I vented in my last post RECENT REALITY OF LIVING WITH AUDITORY PROCESSING DISORDER I’d like to revisit my experiences.

One of the needs I have and have missed from working in my medical sales job is meeting and finding a connection with people, both with meeting Uber riders and drivers. Driving for Uber has met this need, even if the time spent with newly acquainted riders is average 20- 30 minutes but even longer lengths of wait time but valuable time to ask questions to seasoned drivers.

Everything is difficult with a learning disorder: a post about hope, living and working with a learning disorder. Yes, the learning curve was difficult for me, but I embraced it and have overcome it. Now I love it. I will share a few experiences and stories with you in the following post.

 First of all, when I initially came home as a new Uber driver, I had stories to tell my daughter and husband of riders. After a few weeks, my husband asked: “do you interview anyone”? Later, my daughter asked: “do you give them all your resume”? Yes, to both. If they want to talk or ask me questions I try to find a commonality. Usually, they ask why I drive? Initially, it was to earn money to go on a trip to Ireland with my sisters. Since my husband wasn’t invited, I felt I didn’t need to take the money out of the family budget and earn my way.

The question I most often get asked is “do you like driving for Uber?” So, I give them my answer, yes, I like meeting people something I have missed since I retired, supplementing my retirement, and I am doing it to earn my way on a trip to Ireland with my sisters. This intrigues most of them both in Ireland and that I am earning my own money doing a job that I don’t feel is beneath me. I sell them on me, my passion for meeting them, on my reason for driving (earning money) and it makes good conversation.

Another question is “what brought you to driving?” Thus, I give them my resume, I was pushed into early retirement from medical sales and am supplementing my income to travel. I miss meeting people and this job meets that need even if the encounter is only 15-30 minutes. I have learned many drivers are retired, some have enough retirement income but need a purpose and do it to get out every day.

If they don’t ask me questions or just don’t want to talk, many are making a business call or texting while I drive that is fine, but I miss the opportunity of an encounter. However, if there is just silence, I start “the interview” as my husband called it. I learned from being a sales rep to ask them probing question or leading questions like: “what brought you to [my city]?, “how long have you lived in [city or their destination]?” Sometimes I know something about the rider’s destination and can give them some interesting (maybe useless) information about it or about the city. It usually helps to connect, which leads to interesting conversations and that leads to tips.

APD is not a disease. What the ear gives the brain to process is distorted .APD can cause problems in relationships at home, being misheard or misunderstood can lead to arguments that might never have arisen otherwise. Amen on that!

Now add menopause! Now that’s a hormonal nightmare. For years I find myself overreacting to the smallest of things—an inappropriate or insensitive tone of voice, a perceived slight from a family member or friend. I had expected some degree of increased emotions with menopause, but this was far beyond the realm of what I considered normal hormonal instability.

I, a postmenopausal women, have difficulty determining the hidden meaning of conversations, appreciating subtle aspects of humor and sarcasm, and exhibit other misperceptions related to what is meant. These are the ingredients for an argument.

My husband felt I was reacting strangely, and I felt frustration too. Everything he said I misconstrued. My husband has always had a rather sardonic wit, I had always appreciated his sense of humor. Now, even more, I take everything literally and react emotionally to even the most innocuous of comments, and to understand the intent of others’ communications

I know my husband is emotionally exhausted, and feels he just can’t say anything right. He patronize me cuts me off abruptly too. In fact, he seems to be laughing or sneering at every time I set forth any opinion, from the color of paint the kitchen to current political affairs. After all these years I still don’t think he understands how I’m processing everything.

But if he wouldn’t always tell me stuff when I’m in the middle of focusing on something or with loud noises in the background, I might be able to hear him better.

APD may be a contributing factor to communication difficulties in the postmenopausal women

Finally, my two recommendations for supplementing your income is to Uber Drive (referral LAURAW28016UI) or to  write with Wealthy Affiliate . Have you ever felt like you couldn’t afford to be a writer? You probably write stuff for family and friends all the time. But to make money writing on your own website? No, you need a real job, dress up and sit in a cubicle all day. Really? My experience to share is that I love to write, and a passion I have to write about is living with a learning disorder.

Wealthy Affiliate is a good platform to learn how to supplement income by writing, to learn to use it step by step, and being an Uber Driver are the two ideas of supplementing your income and both can be done on your time frame and you are your own boss. Tried and true, Uber driver (LAURAW28016UI) andWealthy Affiliate.

Please leave comments or questions below, I would love to hear your struggles and stories.

Have the best day.

Laura Lee

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Recent Reality Of Living With Auditory Processing Disorder

My recent reality of living with Auditory Processing Disorder is an example of the continued confusion and frustration I experience on a daily basis, it never ends.

It occurred while driving with one of the rideshare companies, Uber. I chose to be a Uber driver because I have missed meeting people and this would meet a long time need I have had since retirement.

I experienced my first ride as a passenger with Uber during the first week of July while visiting Portland, Oregon, my daughter ordered the ride. I came home and signed up to be a driver and love it but also found frustrations with it. I only had two weeks as a driver in my home city with learning how the application works, I wasn’t seasoned nor trained very well, trained by trial and error mostly.

Weeks ago, my husband had a cerebral aneurysm rupture, was Med flight to Vanderbilt Medical Center in Nashville, TN over a 100 miles away and was in the hospital ICU for twelve days.

During “our” stay at the hospital, I used the time to step out of the hospital to adventure out into the city. I turned on the driver application and got notified as a driver to pick up a rider close to my vicinity, I accepted the drive. I am not familiar with Nashville but with the Uber  map apps, I felt I could find the locations of where to pick up and drop off the rider. Well, maybe not.

I completed several rides but found that I struggled with being a new driver, in a new city, a new car, and a new app, all of which I was not familiar. I knew better but thought I would push myself out of my comfort zone to do this, I did.

For one with Auditory Processing Disorder, this was just as disheartening as anything else I attempt.

First of all, I was not familiar enough with the Uber Driver app and was confused by it initially anyway. I did not have enough repetition of using it to be comfortable.

Secondly, I could not hear the directions for navigating to a riders pick up or drop off, and with APD I cannot remember sequences of directions without an auditory and visual trigger one step at a time. I could not figure out how to connect the iPhone with Bluetooth for the car stereo system to work consistently, I still haven’t but am continuing to try different suggestions.

Thirdly, it is difficult for me to hold a conversation, it is a distraction from navigation directions that are already difficult for me to hear and process, is a struggle to understand and to process enough of the conversation to make sense.

Listening is exhausting and also trying to hear and process the directions is draining.

I hear differently, particularly if there are background noises. Back at the hospital, the alarms for medical equipment, the television and voices from the hall made listening difficult. The nurse asked my husband “would you like more soup”? I heard “would you like to … Moore’s stoop”? That didn’t make sense, I was slow to process that she was asking him about soup. She said “time for you to get back in bed”, I heard “kind of like you are dead”. Not something I wanted to hear while my husband is in the hospital.

I continue taking the CBD oil  and still believe it is helpful for anxiety and sleep.

I am writing to validate what it is like to live with APD, past, and present. It is therapeutic to write and to describe my struggles with those who share the same struggles. All with the training from Wealthy Affiliates.

Please leave your questions or comments. I am looking forward to hearing your story.

Laura Lee