TWO IDEAS FOR SUPPLEMENTAL INCOME AND FLEXIBILITY FOR PERSONS WITH A LEARNING DISORDER


I’d like to begin
while living with the frustrations of a learning disorder, I have learned the new Uber Driver app, I have had more training, I have had more practice, I am more comfortable and I have a better understanding of the Uber routine. I love driving for UBER. Despite the frustrations (from Auditory Processing Disorder) that I vented in my last post RECENT REALITY OF LIVING WITH AUDITORY PROCESSING DISORDER I’d like to revisit my experiences.

One of the needs I have and have missed from working in my medical sales job is meeting and finding a connection with people, both with meeting Uber riders and drivers. Driving for Uber has met this need, even if the time spent with newly acquainted riders is average 20- 30 minutes but even longer lengths of wait time but valuable time to ask questions to seasoned drivers.

Everything is difficult with a learning disorder: a post about hope, living and working with a learning disorder. Yes, the learning curve was difficult for me, but I embraced it and have overcome it. Now I love it. I will share a few experiences and stories with you in the following post.

 First of all, when I initially came home as a new Uber driver, I had stories to tell my daughter and husband of riders. After a few weeks, my husband asked: “do you interview anyone”? Later, my daughter asked: “do you give them all your resume”? Yes, to both. If they want to talk or ask me questions I try to find a commonality. Usually, they ask why I drive? Initially, it was to earn money to go on a trip to Ireland with my sisters. Since my husband wasn’t invited, I felt I didn’t need to take the money out of the family budget and earn my way.

The question I most often get asked is “do you like driving for Uber?” So, I give them my answer, yes, I like meeting people something I have missed since I retired, supplementing my retirement, and I am doing it to earn my way on a trip to Ireland with my sisters. This intrigues most of them both in Ireland and that I am earning my own money doing a job that I don’t feel is beneath me. I sell them on me, my passion for meeting them, on my reason for driving (earning money) and it makes good conversation.

Another question is “what brought you to driving?” Thus, I give them my resume, I was pushed into early retirement from medical sales and am supplementing my income to travel. I miss meeting people and this job meets that need even if the encounter is only 15-30 minutes. I have learned many drivers are retired, some have enough retirement income but need a purpose and do it to get out every day.

If they don’t ask me questions or just don’t want to talk, many are making a business call or texting while I drive that is fine, but I miss the opportunity of an encounter. However, if there is just silence, I start “the interview” as my husband called it. I learned from being a sales rep to ask them probing question or leading questions like: “what brought you to [my city]?, “how long have you lived in [city or their destination]?” Sometimes I know something about the rider’s destination and can give them some interesting (maybe useless) information about it or about the city. It usually helps to connect, which leads to interesting conversations and that leads to tips.

APD is not a disease. What the ear gives the brain to process is distorted .APD can cause problems in relationships at home, being misheard or misunderstood can lead to arguments that might never have arisen otherwise. Amen on that!

Now add menopause! Now that’s a hormonal nightmare. For years I find myself overreacting to the smallest of things—an inappropriate or insensitive tone of voice, a perceived slight from a family member or friend. I had expected some degree of increased emotions with menopause, but this was far beyond the realm of what I considered normal hormonal instability.

I, a postmenopausal women, have difficulty determining the hidden meaning of conversations, appreciating subtle aspects of humor and sarcasm, and exhibit other misperceptions related to what is meant. These are the ingredients for an argument.

My husband felt I was reacting strangely, and I felt frustration too. Everything he said I misconstrued. My husband has always had a rather sardonic wit, I had always appreciated his sense of humor. Now, even more, I take everything literally and react emotionally to even the most innocuous of comments, and to understand the intent of others’ communications

I know my husband is emotionally exhausted, and feels he just can’t say anything right. He patronize me cuts me off abruptly too. In fact, he seems to be laughing or sneering at every time I set forth any opinion, from the color of paint the kitchen to current political affairs. After all these years I still don’t think he understands how I’m processing everything.

But if he wouldn’t always tell me stuff when I’m in the middle of focusing on something or with loud noises in the background, I might be able to hear him better.

APD may be a contributing factor to communication difficulties in the postmenopausal women

Finally, my two recommendations for supplementing your income is to Uber Drive (referral LAURAW28016UI) or to  write with Wealthy Affiliate . Have you ever felt like you couldn’t afford to be a writer? You probably write stuff for family and friends all the time. But to make money writing on your own website? No, you need a real job, dress up and sit in a cubicle all day. Really? My experience to share is that I love to write, and a passion I have to write about is living with a learning disorder.

Wealthy Affiliate is a good platform to learn how to supplement income by writing, to learn to use it step by step, and being an Uber Driver are the two ideas of supplementing your income and both can be done on your time frame and you are your own boss. Tried and true, Uber driver (LAURAW28016UI) andWealthy Affiliate.

Please leave comments or questions below, I would love to hear your struggles and stories.

Have the best day.

Laura Lee

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Quiet Time, What It Means To One With APD?

Does annoying background noise keep you from having a meaningful conversation with family and friends because of APD?

As I sit here at my home computer, the house is quiet, without noise except for the keys clicking on the keyboard. For one wrestling with Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) easily distracted and background noise makes it hard to concentrate, focus and process. This quietness is perfect.

This entire scenario is not typical, but I do love the quiet, it seems the words and my thoughts flow flawlessly on paper but not in a conversation.

However, the quiet will soon be interrupted, with background noises; TV (high volume does not help), noise from the washer and dryer, conversations (again, speaking LOUDER is not better), phone rings, text dings, music coming from a different room, and noticeable it is all noisy.

The distractions remind me of the moment I had when my Psych explained what I was struggling with was real learning disorders, APD, and ADD, but that is only a label. I learned about it so I could educate my “circle” how they could help me. Noise can cause irritability and anxiety, which can damage relationships and interfere with your sex life. Of course, something is always to blame for interfering with your sex life besides the ex. Oh my, let’s don’t go there!

Let’s get back to my true story. This post is not really about the quiet, but the annoyance of not being able to apprehend the sounds to recognize words in sentences. It is overwhelming and always aggravating to be struggling to determine words, language, or ideas; just, conversation. If I am face to face with you, I can focus and process well if there is no background noise. If not intentionally face to face with you, I only process the last part of a sentence, the first of a sentence is like a mumble.

I’ve accused my husband of mumbling way too many times, and I am sorry for that. Remarks might come through with certain words drowned out by other noises. I then try to determine the message one is trying to communicate  with what I hear of the message.

I wish I could have JUST ONE DAY without asking any one to repeat what they said. Huh? What? Pardon? Or replying with something that shows I entirely misunderstood the message. It is so much like having hearing loss, but I can hear, I’m deaf to certain sounds. Crazy, yeah? There is not a darn thing I can do about it. There are no devices available for this; a hearing aid doesn’t stimulate processing; it just makes it louder.

Have you ever been in a bar or restaurant so noisy that you made yourself hoarse trying to talk loudly enough to be heard? Maybe you gave up on having a meaningful conversation altogether? Maybe you even ended up drinking more than you intended to because it was too noisy to converse. All of these are side effects of noise, and noise is a side effect of annoyance.

Well, noisy people and places annoy me. I find when several conversations are occurring at once, I can’t process any of them, who freakin’ cares besides me?

We all have struggles, and yep I have a learning disorder (or two), anxiety, got pushed out of a job after 25 years, whined to my Psych, and after sulking for five years, I’m moving on. But I get it, won’t forget it, and want to share it.

Sharing with others is essential; everyone has something going on; it’s called “life experiences”.  I have life experiences; I hid them all for a long time, now I want to share them all. My job was my identity, I was emotionally attached to it, and I lost it. I am not the Big Pharma sales representative any longer, but I am a person who worked for a Big Pharma company for 25 years and learned a lot of transferrable skills.

I have accepted that I hear and learn differently, I am living with it, but instead of “that” being me, I am me with “that” as frustrating as that is. A funny part of my story is as I explain I have learning disorders and what they are, it seems that to most I talk to recognize it, and they also have it! Hum. So maybe I’m not so freakin’ different?

The easiest, quickest way to communicate is merely to say something (for me I add a shock factor) and then the other person replies, right? Right, unless the listener has APD, then the remarks come through with certain words drowned out by other noises. Most people aren’t familiar with APD and are much more likely to wonder if I am just not listening, not very intelligent or don’t freaking care about the conversation (usually the latter). I am missing out on so much.

It seems I get essential messages wrong, forgetful, and have problems following instructions, sequencing, losing parts of directions, instructions or recipes, and lengthy explanations. Do I hear an “Amen”?

What do you tell your employer to keep this from becoming another one of those jobs where you quit or if you are lucky enough to retire before they can fire you? Disclose it or not, now or later? It happened to me; performance evaluations pointing out inadequate performances (by their new standards and the introduction of computers), pushed me to disclose my learning disorders, with accommodations (for a medical sales representative) provided to my employer.

TAKING NOTES

My accommodations require I take time to make notes and to write essential information down, have reminders put in a memo or email, create a specific adjustment to my schedule was created. I use index cards to trigger the points I present and quiet places for preparations. None of this went over well, but Big Pharma played along shortly.

Sometimes I need quiet time, an absence of background noise and distractions? If the employer will comply with reasonable accommodations, it sounds good on paper but it is not practical in the real world. The noise is present, and my focus is not.

I find it is common in the pharmaceutical industry for older employees (what? I was 52) get pushed out for younger, less expensive employees. I guess being a seasoned representative with 25 years of experience and relationships which takes years to develop didn’t freakin’ matter in the end.

IN CONCLUSION, THE  Bottom Line: Stress, Anxiety, and fear!

A smarter person than I said, “I hadn’t noticed that I had a hearing problem. I just thought most people had given up on speaking clearly.” Touché

Do you fear to explain the gap in your work history? Sign up for a class, start a blog, start your own business (potentially an online marketing business). It’s all so clear to me now. Working from home, on your computer, on your schedule and collectively learn how to make money working with Affiliate Programs, there are thousands of them and millions of products. 

So, you also find yourself in a wave of anxiety and embarrassment denying your family because you are unemployed, fired, retired, disabled, can’t make ends meet, or just want to supplement your income. I know, me too! However, I learned making money does not have to be brick and mortar, working for someone else, dealing with bosses, or dealing with long travel times. Just the opposite!

I found out how to supplement my retirement; writing which I enjoy, and helping others that have felt the emotions I felt while jobless before I found Wealthy Affiliate.

Please leave a comment on your personal experiences, helpful tips, and resources or other topics you would like to read.

Peace,

Laura Lee